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- Don't isolate yourself
- Join a DFN group
- Keeping a journal keeps the facts straight forever
- Set and clarify your goals
- Use humor whenever possible
- Get the finances in order
- Take care of yourself, exercise, rest, vacation
- Limit risks and watch out for setups
- Get involved in your children's after school activities
- Find a mentor--learn from someone who lives the solution
- Watch out for the ex-partner’s buttons and triggers
- Be patient, things will change
- Resentment/Rage, Acceptance, Hope/Healing
- Get acquainted with the children's teachers, doctors, friends, and friends parents
- Be proactive--begin with the end in mind, put most important things first, think and act win/win, seek first to understand--then be understood.
- Pick your fights carefully and don't sweat the small stuff
- Stay out of the adversarial family law court system
- Use mediators, collaborative attorneys, or conflict resolution centers
- Detach from your former partner--don't expect her to be a resource
- Watch out for depression, suicidal thoughts, excessive anger, and resentment
- Understand SARAH, coping with loss - Shock/Denial, Anger
- When communication is rough, keep it brief. Discuss only the important stuff
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